ID Number: 1538 From: "Raymond" <raymond756@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: Topic for discussion
Date: Friday, March 03 2006 - 01:54:35
Let's change the question a bit.
Why do nice guys want those girls? Why don't the guys go after the
women that want them?
Some of my thoughts, you are welcome to share yours. You are also
welcome to comment on mine.
The women are - (more)
desirable
different
exciting
popular
pretty
unattainable
For fame and/or publicity - "Look at me"
Make a fantasy come true.
Maybe as a distraction for a while from the rest of your life.
Maybe you think that you are saving her from him and/or herself - "I'm
her savior"
Maybe you are friends, or friendly, and she comes to you with help
after a bad relationship.
To see if you can - as a challenge - and/or as a dare - "I did it"
You are bored.
You just want to have some fun for a short time.
Now for some more questions. And possibly the questions are answers
in themselves.
How well you do you know her? Is only what you know about her what
you see and what other people told you about her? If so, would you be
disillusioned/disappointed by what she is really like and still want a
relationship with her? fantasy vrs. reality?
Now suppose she did say "yes"? She said "I'm yours and only yours" -
and she says this before she is sick of other men.
Would you get "sick of her" after a while just like she "got sick of
other men"?
Is what she is what you are looking for?
How compatible are you both?
Would she, and you, be happy in a lasting relationship?
She is different - personality, what she likes, what she wants to do,
how she does things, what she cares about.
Do you want to change, do you want her to change, or to become more
like each other?
Maybe you don't really want her, maybe you just think that you want
her since she is different, you may feel that she "completes you"
because she is what you are not.
(for some reason this reminds me of Shel Silverstein's Missing Piece,
which reminds me of The Big O, which reminds me of Roger Smith, which
reminds me of Dorothy, which reminds me that I want to go home but I
have to stop and get some new shoes before I do - but now I am
starting to ramble so I will stop now. Not this message, just the
rambling.)
"Stonn, she is yours. After a time, you may find having is not so
pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical -- but it is
often true."
--Spock - Amok Time
Or maybe it was just a Slow Tuesday Night (Basil Bagelbaker).
Of course this is all just my opinion, I could be wrong.
You are welcome to express yours.
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